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Handle being in a Love Triangle

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So you want to know how to handle being in a love triangle? The simple answer is don't! Don't let yourself fall into the trap of being in a love triangle because it doesn't have that great little happy ending that people want. This isn't Dawson's Creek where at the end the little group of friends finally made up and managed to be happy and comfortable. In real life love triangles end with someone having a broken heart and wounds that never quite heal.

The funny thing is that the person at the center of the love triangle can do anything they want and have relationships with both people. Those two people who fought over that one person though are never able to be friends again or even have a relationship because the bitterness of what happened will always stick with them.

If you find yourself in a love triangle you first need to confront your own feelings about that person. Do you really have feelings for that person, or is there something about competition that turns you on? Believe it or not, a lot of people feel their feelings intensify simply because they know that someone else wants that person as much as they do.

Then you need to consider your feelings about the other part of the triangle, that other person who wants your great love. The odds are good that this person will not only be someone you're close to, but someone you share a friendship with. If you let the love triangle continue, you might as well kiss your friendship behind because it will never be the same.

There's another type of love triangle that often happens with woman in that they find themselves competing for the love and affection of a married man. In this case you go into the relationship knowing that you won't see happily ever after, but still holding onto that idea anyway. You're competing with a woman who pledged to love him forever and competing with their past history. There just isn't an easy way to do this.

The last thing you want to consider when engaging in a love triangle is your own feelings. It's easy to imagine a future where you win and the object of your love becomes your boyfriend or girlfriend, but how will you feel if you lose? The problem is that most people don't want to think about losing. They need to remember that they only have a 50/50 shot at winning that person and sometimes the losses are worth more than the gains.

It's also important to remember that there's always the chance the love object won't want either of you. What will you do if there is no winner and he decides to just move on with his life and pick someone else, or pick no one? Being in a love triangle isn't easy, but only you can decide if it's really something you want to do.

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