Many of us have been in a relationship and have been heartbroken because our partners have cheated on us. When two people are in a relationship, it is crucial that they trust each other. A lack of trust can often develop negative emotion such as suspicion, distrust, and lying. These negative emotions can ultimately take a relationship that could have been great and tear it apart.
There are many reasons why people cheat. Some people cheat because they do not want to be in a relationship, but feel that they have been forced into it, or are simply not brave enough to handle the repercussions of telling a person that they "care" about that they do not want to be with them. Other people cheat for vengeance, to get back at partners who may have had their own indiscretions. Sometimes, an individual will cheat on his or her partner because they have deeper psychological issues concerning sex. Frequently, these individuals may have a sex addiction, seeking intimacy from a number of partners, regardless of emotional connections. Many times, individuals will cheat because of the fact that their partners are not emotionally of physically available to them. Partners who feel a lack of intimacy or emotional connection may sometimes look outside of their relationships in search of the intimacy that they lack within their current relationship.
Whatever the reason why they cheat, cheaters are not emotionally or psychologically healthy, balanced, or mature individuals. In any of the aforementioned circumstances, "cheaters" are looking outside of their current relationships to fill some void within themselves. Self-esteem is defined as confidence in one's own abilities and respect for oneself. If someone has low self-esteem, they enjoy the attention and affection that they receive from other people. When that is the case, then these people fall into a trap where they give into the act that makes them feel sexy or empowered. These actions or behaviors ultimately give their egos a boost. In other words, when they feel bad about themselves, they need to feel as though someone wants them, because they cannot give that to themselves and do not feel that "void" is filled within themselves.
A person with high self-esteem does not need affection or attention from another person to feel whole and complete. A healthy, balanced person knows how to make him or herself happy. When in a relationship, a healthy person with high self-esteem can confront their personal needs and desires and respect his or her partner enough to communicate these needs and desire to them. If a person does not honestly have respect for his or her partner in a romantic relationship, it is unnecessary to look outside of the relationship and cheat.