Dating Psychology

What is an Emotional Connection

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What does it mean to be emotionally connected to another person? It's something that goes beyond just the physical. It's being able to relate to a person on an emotional level- being able to share your feelings with them, being open and vulnerable, and trusting that person not to hurt you emotionally. The connection has to work both ways. It's not a true connection if you share your feelings but the other person holds everything back.

Communication is the key to being emotionally connected with another person. You can't be emotionally connected to someone if you can't talk to them. You don't have to tell your partner everything, especially in the early stages of a relationship, but you should be able to talk to them about things that are important to you.

Communication works both ways, of course. Your partner needs to be able to talk to you, too. That means you need to be a good listener. To encourage your partner to talk to you, listen without interrupting. Don't jump in with advice.

Trust and honesty are important components of emotional connection, and they both relate to communication, as well. Communication is pointless if you're not going to be honest. Lies or half-truths do not lead to a healthy emotional connection.

Real, open communication requires trust. Before you can feel safe telling your partner important things about yourself, you'll need to trust them not to share your secrets with anyone else. You'll need to trust them not to use the information against you in some way. Honesty comes into play here, as well. It's hard to trust someone who isn't honest with you.

You need to spend time with a person in order to develop an emotional connection. I don't just mean going out on dates. I'm talking about just hanging out together. Spending time together in a relaxed environment will allow more opportunity for sharing feelings and talking openly about things.

Look for activities you both enjoy doing. It's hard to connect on an emotional level if you don't share some common interests. You'll find it easier to be your real self when doing something that you enjoy and feel good about. You'll feel more at ease and your partner will get to see the real you. This works both ways, of course. You'll get to see the real them, too.

Last but not least, cuddling is something that nourishes that emotional connection. I'm not talking about sex now, I'm talking about non-sexual touching and physical closeness. Sure, sex can contribute to feelings of emotional connection, but it doesn't always. It's possible to have sex with someone without feeling emotionally connected at all. Sex alone won't lead to emotional closeness.

We communication a lot nonverbally. Hugging, cuddling, touching, holding your partner- these things all express your feelings for him or her without you saying a word.

It takes time to develop a strong emotional connection with someone. You can't rush it, and it's not a good idea to try. Let it grow slowly over time. The connection will be stronger that way, and it will be more likely to last.

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