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When your Husband Works too much

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It is very hard to feel like you are in a loving relationship when your husband is away working all the time. When my husband was in the service and sometimes gone for a few days at a time, I thought it was tough. After getting out of the service he had to get a job somewhere and he decided to become a truck driver. The money so far is not that good and he works 70 hours a week. My son and I see him maybe every other weekend. Sometimes we go three weeks at a time without seeing each other.

It is especially hard to deal with if your marriage is relatively new. We have been married for 5 years. We also have a 4 year old son. It gets so hard hearing him asking me why daddy isn't home and when we can pick daddy up. I have caught him crying saying "daddy wants to see me doesn't he?" . I think these moments hurt the most.

The most important thing to remember in my situation is that it isn't my husband's fault. He is doing what he has to do to provide a good living for his family. One reason I stay home with my son is because I don't want him to feel abandoned by both parents. It is hard to think of him sometimes when all I want to do is feel sorry for myself because my husband is gone. My son needs his daddy just as bad as I need my husband.

It gets hard dealing with the stress of bill paying and parenting all by myself. I basically feel like an only parent. Often I feel lonely and feel very desperate to make things come together. It seems much harder to do things on my own than I realized it would be. It would be nice to get a break once in a while. But then I think when does my husband get break? Sure I may only have a 4 year old to converse with but my husband has no-one. He works so hard and all he does is drive and sleep.

In the end it is important to remember why your husband is working that job in the first place. Try to see things from their point of view. They probably hate their work schedule just as much as you. Just keep in mind why you married him in the first place and do what it takes to make things work. Then when they get that extra free time, it makes it much more special and intimate.

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